I love my boyfriend of two years very much, but our sex life is dead. My boyfriend is a member of an elite gym, and has a body that would drive anyone crazy. So why don't I want to have sex with him?He's a scientist, and he has sex like a scientist. He's not a good kisser, but worse, he flies through foreplay like its his weekend chore list, and goes straight to the fucking as quick as he can. He's a voracious bottom, which should work out for me, but in the end, I'm always left finishing off alone. He always comes within minutes, and the whole time does nothing sexy, does nothing to help me along. In fact he does lots of stuff that turns me off. I've never lost hard-ons during sex until I was with him. I might as well be a cucumber glued to a body pillow, he'd have about the same interaction. As such, I dread sex when visiting him (we don't live in the same city) because I know its going to be a frustrating disappointment. I love him dearly, because he's the sweetest man I've ever known, but we're totally out of tune in bed. Not only do I miss great sex, I miss mediocre sex.
This has my eyes wandering, Dan, and I'm pretty sure I'm going to end up hurting him by cheating. And I'm sure I'd hurt his feelings if I even mentioned an open relationship. I don't want to hurt him! He's my best friend, but my worst lover. What do I do with that?
Not On Tonight
My response after the jump...
