My youngest daughter is a lesbian and recently ended a five-year relationship, her longest yet. Feelings between my daughter and her ex-girlfriend are still very raw. To my knowledge they haven't been speaking. My daughter has asked my husband and I, and her brother and sister, not to ask questions about the relationship and to not have communication with her ex-girlfriend.One thing concerns me. My daughter's ex is also ex-Mormon. Her parents cut her out of their lives when she was eighteen. She left college in Utah and moved to the our area, where she soon met our daughter. Because she's lost her family, she's grown very close to ours, and she's spent the past five holiday seasons with us. Now I am increasingly bothered by the possibility she might spend Christmas alone. I want to ask my daughter what her ex-girlfriend's plans are for Christmas—she still celebrates it—and, if she has none, invite her to join us. But I'm unsure if it's my place to do this. It probably isn't.
Your advice would be welcome.
Yuletide Worrier
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