On your podcast a caller asked about grinding between lesbians. I came across this passage in Sex at Dawn (great book, thanks for the recommendation): "...genital-genital (G-G) rubbing between female bonobos appears to affirm female bonding, is present in all bonobo populations studied (wild and captive), and is completely absent in chimpanzees. Human data on G-G rubbing are presently unavailable." (pg 78)For my part (I'm a dyke), I like it but it's too much effort to actually get off. Unless you both have big clits, it's hard to get into and sustain enough contact.
Now that I've buttered you up with a quote from your new favorite book, maybe you'll give me some advice. My girlfriend and I are opening up our relationship some. Right now our deal is when one of us is out of town, we are allowed to kiss other people. The problem is that I'm usually the one who travels and I can't really make it happen. My style is more to flirt with people I know, or people my friends know. It's pretty tough to go to a random dyke bar alone and end with anything exciting. Any suggestions?
Devoted Dyke
My response after the jump.