Perhaps you can assist a devout and adoring reader in making a decision here. I'm 22, tall, blonde, liberal and hold a B.S. degree. I am bisexual, GGG and significantly kinky. My boyfriend is 40, liberal as well, intelligent and very successful. We've been in a monogamous relationship (my first relationship ever) for the last 6 months.Before the BF, I have always been very sexually free—I'm used to friends with benefits, and have never been interested in anyone enough to consider a relationship. My carefully chosen FWBs are generally kinky, rough, and younger—like 25-30. So here's where the shit storm starts: my boyfriend is very gentle, engages in little if any foreplay (besides grabbing a jizz towel), and although he says he's willing to "learn" how to enjoy giving and receiving pain, being rough, etc., my efforts have been met with nothing from him. I've almost cried during sex more than once out of frustration. The fact that I'm not particularly physically attracted to him from the neck down does not help the matter. Two weeks ago my sex drive mysteriously disappeared. I no longer fantasize, masturbate, or have sexual thoughts throughout the day.
The problem is that I love him, and he thinks he can give me what I want. When he's tried to reciprocate in bed, it's so slight and gentle it almost goes unnoticed. I want to laugh, then cry. We're sexually incompatible, and he's very serious about this monogamy thing. I could never just DTMFA: We're fantastic as friends and have a lot in common intellectually. Help!
Futureless, Or Incredibly Lame Effort Dispensed?
My response after the jump...