I am a gay man and have been with my partner for over 6 years. We recently met another gay couple and have become pretty good friends. Both of our relationships are open, in that we play with others only when both partners are involved. But we don't play with others as often as our new friends do.I've noticed a slight mutual crush between myself and one of our new friends. I'm not leaving my partner for him or anyone else, so I'm not too concerned about that. My problem is that I get a little jealous when my crush tells me about the other guys he and his partner fool around with.
My first question is, do you have any suggestions on how I can decrease my crush and thereby the jealousy that goes with it? Second, we have all talked about the four of us fooling around together. Do you think that once the sexual tension is no longer there my crush will diminish, or do you think this will backfire after sex is introduced and we'll ultimately end up losing the friendship?
Partnered With Mixed Feelings
My response after the jump...