I've been in great gay relationships both as a dominant top and as a submissive bottom... but now I've got an amazing boyfriend who may be the one. We have great sex, we switch roles, but I'm aware that in the past he enjoyed getting fucked rough by older guys and being physically dominated. With me, he can get really bossy and bitchy and in bed he's hesitant to get fucked. But he has told me more than once that the hottest sex he had before me involved a guy taking control in situations like that and fucking the hell out of him despite his protests.I am very open minded and perceptive when it comes to sex and relationships. I have reluctantly accepted the idea that roles are fluid and that the bedroom and the public life can be separate. But knowing the psychology and psychology of so many gays I've come across in the Castro, Chelsea, WeHo, Berlin and London... I am afraid that there may be truth to the fact that ultimately a vast majority of gays are bottoms who long to be dominated.
Being an inherently a "nice guy" myself, I wonder whether my boyfriend can ever be happy with me. Should I invest in him?
Oberlin
My response after the jump...