I'm a 21-year-old female who's been having frequent phone sex with a 35-year old man in another state. He used to be my professor and academic advisor, but we didn't make a habit of getting each other off until I graduated.This man is married and about to have his first kid. He doesn't seem to be taking enough precautions. He isn't very quiet when he calls me (he's woken his wife before) and he doesn't delete our texts (he says he likes to jerk off to them again later). He's offered to fly me to a rendezvous location where we could play out our fantasies, but when I pointed out the danger of his wife seeing his credit card charges he said, "Well, I'm going to get caught eventually."
How hard should I lecture him about not getting caught? I know the rules for cheating spouses, but what about the people they are involved with? How much does the responsibility of preserving his marriage fall upon me?
Girl On The Side
My response after the jump...