After 40+ years of marriage, my parents dropped the bombshell announcement that they're divorcing. My mom's the driver in this—she's always had a bit of an anger streak, has progressively withdrawn from various activities to the point now where she stays home all day reading and checking the internet and not much else. My dad, thankfully, has an active life—work, exercise, religion, etc.—and they both have consistently done couples things with friends and spent a lot of time together, and he's been as attentive to her throughout their marriage as possible.The twist: I'm 99% convinced that my mom is a lesbian. She has a masculine-ish demeanor, she loves mowing the lawn and fixing things, she taught me how to punch (I'm a guy), she hates cooking—there are tons of signs and one of my siblings agrees. However, my big concern is that even if I'm right, she won't come to terms with it on her own. So how do I get her to come to terms with herself? She's the type of person who, if I directly ask, will simply shut down, raise her guard up, and vehemently deny it til she's blue in the face. She refuses therapy so that's not an option. I've seriously thought I might need to sneak a hit of ecstacy into her dinner some night to enable her to have the kind of mental breakthrough she clearly needs. (The rational part of me recognizes this is as a bad/illegal idea, but I've read about the therapeutic potential of e).
Am Sure Mom's A Dyke
P.S. While they live in the midwest, and run in a conservative circles, my parents know I'm gay and are fine with it.
My response after the jump...