I've got a sad problem. My sex life with my husband of 12 years, total of 15 together, was hot for a few years, but dropped off when I started antidepressants ten years ago—can't orgasm, very low libido, but the meds changed my life for the better.We have four young children and for the past year, one of them has been very sick—a life-long, serious illness—and dealing with our sick child is physically and emotionally exhausting. Though my spouse is a WONDERFUL teammate AND I love him AND he is physically attractive, I just don't have it in me to have sex of any kind with anyone. Not even myself.
At work I'm energized because my job has been a respite from the staggering, miserable situation at home. But I'm otherwise so depressed—at times suicidal—I don't know if I could even give a hand job without weeping. On top of that, I have really let myself go—caring for myself is at the bottom of the 'to do' list these days—so I also feel unattractive.
I feel so bad for my husband having to put up with me, I told him it's totally fine if he goes elsewhere to fulfill his (rather strong) sexual desires, but he says he doesn't want to do that. Any suggestions?
Dead Down There
My response after the jump...