I'm a longtime reader, and wanted to let you know that you pretty much blew it on one of the questions this week—that softball question about male chastity from WIFE, whose husband had asked her to lock up his dick.You told WIFE that "except in the most extreme cases," male chastity "isn't really about orgasm denial" and that the usual result is the "denied/chaste man having more orgasms, not fewer."
I'm a chastity submissive and my wife is my Top, and as a member of this kink group, I'm quite confident in saying you are dead wrong. A husband who tells his wife he wants to be locked in a chastity cage isn't asking in code for more orgasms, or even just for greater intimacy, he's asking to be sexually dominated in a specific way. Considering that this is a very difficult thing for a man to request, I'll bet money that WIFE's husband really does have this kink.
You're not doing either WIFE or her husband any favors by telling her that unless her husband is an "extreme case," he doesn't actually mean what he's asking for. He almost certainly does. Like lots of other kinks, this one is surprising to lots of folks, but is real and specific. WIFE's husband sincerely wants her to control and deny his orgasms as a form of submission. This can be fun for both parties, but pretending his kink isn't about control and denial isn't a good starting point. Because it is about those things.
You also warned WIFE not to actually deny her husband for any significant length of time because she would elevate his risk of prostate cancer. I found this surprising because I ASKED YOU THIS EXACT QUESTION last year and you published a rather different answer, in which you took pains to point out that those studies that do exist on this topic seem to indicate that ejaculating very infrequently may be healthier than ejaculating at a moderate frequency.
Maybe the research has changed since then, but my understanding is that prostate cancer triggers are still poorly understood, so I'm not so sure that telling WIFE "your husband probably doesn't really mean what he's saying, but even if he does, don't actually do what he's asking for you'll give him cancer" was the best possible advice here.
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My response after the jump...