Almost exactly four years ago I met my wonderful girlfriend. Like typical lesbians our relationship moved very fast. We held off on sex until the third week and then had the most awesomely passionate and creative sex for the next four months. I had always been interested in BDSM and she was too so we played those games. We had sex at least twice a day for months. Then the sex tapered off. I wasn't surprised. But what did bother me was that now she seemed to be getting more and more lazy with the kind of sex she wanted and more vanilla with the kind of sex she'd tolerate. Then it tapered off even more.At first I was just concerned...was there something wrong with me? The relationship? She said her back hurt and we found out she had a slipped disk. After that got all fixed she said she was just tired. The excuses never stopped. Finally last December (we were down to sex twice a month) we went to couples counseling and I called bullshit. I told her that quadriplegics figure out how to have sex and any physical issue could be overcome with some creativity and some advil. She told me that she would "try harder" and "work at sex." Now we are three weeks away from our fourth anniversary and it appears that I don't want to have sex with her. My body is simply not interested in sex with her.
I still like to masturbate and do frequently but there has been too much drama for me to enter into sex with her without anxiety and tension. Other than the sex I'm pretty happy with her. My mom says that I'm lucky to have her and that sex is not that important since everything else is fine. What do you think?
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My response after the jump...